Somewhere along the line, you will find yourself in a network situation whereby your 10 minute partner is speaking your language and engaging with you at your level. Whether you are building a life or a business, you are going to need advice and encouragement. There is always a need for a guiding hand with words of wisdom. Mentoring and being a mentor – are gifts worth their weight in gold.
I have had lots of mentors in my life who have had a helping hand in shaping my courage. Here are my top tips…
Ask Politely - If there is someone who you gravitate towards, then speak up and give them your pitch. Have the confidence that they will say yes, “I have some time to answer your questions.” The worst they can say is, “Sorry, no time, too busy. Good luck.”
Open the Door - If they do say yes – tell them WHY YOU IDENTIFY with them – so you are both on the same page in your minds-eye.
Get Organised - Most people like order, so be well-prepared with your questions and don’t waste time with silly small talk. Get right down to business and sort your stuff – while you have your mentors ear!
Find Your Holes – Face the facts that you don’t know everything, so find a mentor who will help you fill in your information holes. Fine someone who likes a challenge and solving life’s problems and / or business problems. Their different approach to a problem might just be the one potential you never thought existed.
Have empathy – You need empathy with everyone, and with your mentor, so even if you do not agree with an idea – at least try and understand it so that you both respect each other views. This will greatly help your decision-making process.
Better in a Bunch – Discovering more than one mentor will help you to build “multi-perspectives”. No one person has all the answers, so choose different mentors with different backgrounds and experiences to help shape your goals and their outcomes – in more holistic ways.
Mutual Give and Take - The mentor / mentee relationship can never be a one-way engagement. Try to find out what your mentor wishes in return. Most great mentors understand that they are helping to shape your future, but never assume because positive unions are productive and they need to be win-win.
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