Monday, August 31, 2015

TOP TIPS TO MENTOR ENGAGEMENT

by Karla Darocas

Somewhere along the line, you will find yourself in a network situation whereby your 10 minute partner is speaking your language and engaging with you at your level.  Whether you are building a life or a business, you are going to need advice and encouragement. There is always a need for a guiding hand with words of wisdom.  Mentoring and being a mentor – are gifts worth their weight in gold.

I have had lots of mentors in my life who have had a helping hand in shaping my courage.  Here are my top tips…

Ask Politely - If there is someone who you gravitate towards, then speak up and give them your pitch. Have the confidence that they will say yes, “I have some time to answer your questions.”  The worst they can say is, “Sorry, no time, too busy.  Good luck.”

Open the Door - If they do say yes – tell them WHY YOU IDENTIFY with them – so you are both on the same page in your minds-eye.

Get Organised - Most people like order, so be well-prepared with your questions and don’t waste time with silly small talk. Get right down to business and sort your stuff – while you have your mentors ear!

Find Your Holes – Face the facts that you don’t know everything, so find a mentor who will help you fill in your information holes. Fine someone who likes a challenge and solving life’s problems and / or business problems.  Their different approach to a problem might just be the one potential you never thought existed.

Have empathy – You need empathy with everyone, and with your mentor, so even if you do not agree with an idea – at least try and understand it so that you both respect each other views. This will greatly help your decision-making process.

Better in a Bunch – Discovering more than one mentor will help you to build “multi-perspectives”. No one person has all the answers, so choose different mentors with different backgrounds and experiences to help shape your goals and their outcomes – in more holistic ways.

Mutual Give and Take - The mentor / mentee relationship can never be a one-way engagement. Try to find out what your mentor wishes in return. Most great mentors understand that they are helping to shape your future, but never assume because positive unions are productive and they need to be win-win.

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Saturday, August 29, 2015

VENUS CELEBRATIONS IN THE NEWS


PLEASE NOTE - That this event starts at 6:00PM (18:00H) so not our usual Coffee Morning!!
See all details - www.VenusCelebrations.com

Thursday, August 20, 2015

VENUS CELEBRATIONS * SEASON LAUNCH PARTY



Women are coming in from all parts of the Costa Blanca for the 2nd Annual Venus Celebrations hosted by the Costa Blanca Women Network. (CBWomen.com)

Under the sign of Virgo, on the 10th of September in Teulada (Bar Mediterraneo * Salon & Hostel ) - this annual event was created for women who wish to “get connected” in order to increase their social, personal and business relationships.

The Venus Celebrations will begin at 6:00 pm, fee is 25 euros and women must register on the website by the 8th of September. (www.VenusCelebrations.com)

There are three levels of interaction all geared at increasing relationship building.

 Level one is called THE FEAST – whereby participants are encouraged to eat, drink and enjoy while engaging with other revelers. The feast includes wine, water, bread, salad, starter, main, dessert, coffee and aperitif – all fresh and cooked to perfection.

 Level two is the POWER NETWORKING SESSION – whereby participants are paired up and allowed to connect and share for a total of 10 minutes, before the alarm goes off and they are asked to move to another partner. Each participant is given an “Ice Breaker” sheet of paper full of useful and insightful questions aimed at stimulating conversation.

Level three is THE DANCE - whereby participants are allowed to let the spirit of Venus move through them by dancing up a storm. For the second year, the Costa Blanca’s most powerful and entertaining singer – GILL HENRY – will be leading this segment.


Wednesday, August 19, 2015

FALL 2015 ** POWER SPEED NETWORKING DATES AT A GLANCE


SAT. SEPT. 18. CALPE * PRIVATE VILLA
FRI. SEPT. 25. JAVEA * QUO VADIS * Calle Cannes, 5
FRI. OCT 2. PARCENT * PRIVATE VILLA
FRI. OCT. 30. JAVEA  * QUO VADIS * Calle Cannes, 5
FRI. NOV. 27. JAVEA  * QUO VADIS * Calle Cannes, 5
FRI. DEC. 18. JAVEA 
 * QUO VADIS * Calle Cannes, 5

Tuesday, July 14, 2015

NETWORKING WITH DIPLOMATIC COMMUNICATIONS BUILDS BETTER RELATIONSHIPS

The following phrases are nine of the worst offenders. You should avoid them at all costs.

1. “You look tired.”

Tired people are incredibly unappealing—they have droopy eyes and messy hair, they have trouble concentrating, and they’re as grouchy as they come. Telling someone he looks tired implies all of the above and then some.

Instead say: “Is everything okay?” Most people ask if someone is tired because they’re intending to be helpful (they want to know if the other person is okay). Instead of assuming someone’s disposition, just ask. This way, she can open up and share. More importantly, she will see you as concerned instead of rude.

2. “Wow, you’ve lost a ton of weight!”

Once again, a well-meaning comment—in this case a compliment—creates the impression that you’re being critical. Telling someone that she has lost a lot of weight suggests that she used to look fat or unattractive.

Instead say: “You look fantastic.” This one is an easy fix. Instead of comparing how she looks now to how she used to look, just compliment her for looking great. It takes the past right out of the picture.

3. “You were too good for them anyway.”

When someone severs ties with a relationship of any type, personal or professional, this comment implies that they has bad taste and made a poor choice in the first place.

Instead say: “Their loss!” This provides the same enthusiastic support and optimism without any implied criticism.

4. “You always…” or “You never…”

No one always or never does anything. People don’t see themselves as one-dimensional, so you shouldn’t attempt to define them as such. These phrases make people defensive and closed off to your message, which is a really bad thing because you likely use these phrases when you have something important to discuss.

Instead say: Simply point out what the other person did that’s a problem for you. Stick to the facts. If the frequency of the behavior is an issue, you can always say, “It seems like you do this often.” or “You do this often enough for me to notice.”

5. “You look great for your age.”

Using “for your” as a qualifier always comes across as condescending and rude. No one wants to be smart for an athlete or in good shape relative to other people who are also knocking on death’s door. People simply want to be smart and fit.

Instead say: “You look great.” This one is another easy fix. Genuine compliments don’t need qualifiers.

6. “As I said before…”

We all forget things from time to time. This phrase makes it sound as if you’re insulted at having to repeat yourself, which is hard on the recipient (someone who is genuinely interested in hearing your perspective). Getting insulted over having to repeat yourself suggests that either you’re insecure or you think you’re better than everyone else (or both!). Few people who use this phrase actually feel this way.

Instead say: When you say it again, see what you can do to convey the message in a clearer and more interesting manner. This way they'll remember what you said.

7. “Good luck.”

This is a subtle one. It certainly isn’t the end of the world if you wish someone good luck, but you can do better because this phrase implies that they need luck to succeed.

Instead say: “I know you have what it takes.” This is better than wishing her luck because suggesting that she has the skills needed to succeed provides a huge boost of confidence. You’ll stand out from everyone else who simply wishes her luck.

8. “It’s up to you.” or “Whatever you want.”

While you may be indifferent to the question, your opinion is important to the person asking (or else he wouldn’t have asked you in the first place).

Instead say: “I don’t have a strong opinion either way, but a couple things to consider are…” When you offer an opinion (even without choosing a side), it shows that you care about the person asking.

9. “Well at least I’ve never ___.”

This phrase is an aggressive way to shift attention away from your mistake by pointing out an old, likely irrelevant mistake the other person made (and one you should have forgiven her for by now).

Instead say: “I’m sorry.” Owning up to your mistake is the best way to bring the discussion to a more rational, calm place so that you can work things out. Admitting guilt is an amazing way to prevent escalation.

Bringing It All Together

In everyday conversation, it’s the little things that make all the difference. Try these suggestions out, and you’ll be amazed at the positive response you get.

XXOO

Tuesday, June 30, 2015

NETWORKING THE BEACH BEATS NUMBERS AND ENDS SEASON


AWESOME NETWORKING at the final even of the season. It was the largest group yet!!
We break now for summer - see you SEPTEMBER!!
I will be promoting the group all summer to add more networkers!!
Thank you to all who connected over the season!! 2015 to be continued :) 
Karla Darocas, educator / owner - CBWomen.com